Explaining a Separation by Letter

Separating from a partner is hard enough, but at some point the friends and families of those involved will want to know what is going on. Explaining a separation via letter is a good way to clearly and concisely discuss the situation and let loved ones know how each partner is faring with their new circumstances. Such letters can include as much details as the writer prefers and do not need to be formatted as a formal communication.

Content of a Letter Explaining a Separation

Explaining a separation by way of a letter allows the writer to include as much detail about the new situation as (s)he would like. At the very least (s)he will want to include a statement that (s)he and her partner have separated. If (s)he would like to include more information about the separation then (s)he might include:

• Where each partner is now residing and how to contact them.
• What led to the separation.
• If there is a time limit for the separation.
• If reconciliation is likely or if the separation is a known prelude to a divorce.
• If the partners will have contact during the separation, including counselling.
• If the letter writer is willing to discuss the separation with others.
• How each partner is faring emotionally.
• An expression of thanks for support and honouring each partners’ wishes.

A letter which explains a couple’s situation, unless necessary for a business relationship, will be a personal affair.

Example of a Letter Explaining a Separation

20 December, 2010

Dear Jan and Mark,

I announce with great sadness that Liam and I are separating. This has been a very tough decision for us, but we feel that taking some time apart to reassess our personal goals and shared relationship is the best thing for us at this moment.

For the next six months Liam will be moving into an apartment close to his work and can still be contacted on his mobile number and via email. If you need his postal address I can supply it or you can feel free to ask him for it. I will remain in our current home and am always contactable via the usual means.

We have no plans to divorce at this time, though we are both aware that this is not out of the question depending upon how we feel in six months’ time. I want to thank you in advance for your support during this tough time, and while I know that I can always talk to you should I need to at this point I don’t feel much like discussing the matter. I know you will respect this, and I can’t tell you how much that means to me.

Thank you again for your support.

Always,

Margaret